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If you're worried about safety in a relationship, you made the right decision coming here.

Commonly Asked Questions
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What is family violence?
Explore what family violence is and learn about the types of abuse.
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Is your partner making you feel unsafe?
Some common signs that a partner’s behaviour is unsafe and may be dangerous. A relationship may be unsafe, even without abuse or violence.
Does your partner make you feel afraid, hurt you, or control or limit what you can do? Do they do it repeatedly? These are signs of abuse.
Two people holding hands in support, representing a conversation about family violence
What is family violence?
Explore what family violence is and learn about the types of abuse.
Woman looking contemplatively out the window, suggesting concern about unsafe relationship dynamics
Is your partner making you feel unsafe?
Some common signs that a partner’s behaviour is unsafe and may be dangerous. A relationship may be unsafe, even without abuse or violence.
Does your partner make you feel afraid, hurt you, or control or limit what you can do? Do they do it repeatedly? These are signs of abuse.
Our tools
To support you
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Hands of a person using a laptop to access online tools for checking relationship safety
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Concerned about how your partner or ex treats you?
Answer the following questions to find out about abusive behaviours and how to find support.
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Social worker taking notes while providing support, representing the Service Finder for finding help services
Service Finder
Need help but aren't sure where to find it?
Use the Service Finder tool to find the right service for you
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Understand
unsafe relationships
You have the right to a relationship that is equal, respectful, supportive, and safe.
I want to understand
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Get support
for you or someone else
Steps and support for safety for you or someone else who is experiencing family violence.
I want to get support
Woman sitting on a couch deeply engrossed in researching on a tablet, learning about unsafe relationships
Understand
unsafe relationships
You have the right to a relationship that is equal, respectful, supportive, and safe.
I want to understand
Two women engaged in a supportive conversation outdoors, symbolising getting support for family violence issues
Get support
for you or someone else
Steps and support for safety for you or someone else who is experiencing family violence.
I want to get support
Communities
Information and support

Breaking Silence

A video series exploring family violence in Aotearoa. Produced by Magnetic Pictures for Stuff with the support of NZ On Air.
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Breaking Silence
In Breaking Silence, Simonne hears powerful stories from those affected by family violence and explores how the abuse cycle is being broken.
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Breaking Silence

2 Seasons
16 episodes

Description

In Breaking Silence, Simonne hears powerful stories from those affected by family violence and explores how the abuse cycle is being broken.
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Bright Sky app

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Bright Sky app
The Bright Sky app provides safe, practical support and information for people concerned about family violence, or worried about the safety of themselves, or someone they care about.
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Languages and accessible information

Languages
Translated information
Family violence information in 10 languages
NZ Relay services
NZ Relay
These services assist people who are Deaf, hard of hearing, speech-impaired and deafblind to communicate with others over the phone.
Easy Read PDF
Easy Read PDF
Information on family violence in an accessible, easy to read format.