It’s not just physical
Family violence is not just physical.
It can be sexual, psychological or financial and can include neglect.
It is never OK for anyone to use violence to hurt or control someone.
The following information will give you examples of the different types of family violence:
- Making you feel like everything you do is wrong
- Tormenting you emotionally
- Constantly criticising you or your friends
- Humiliating you in front of your friends
- Using unsafe driving to frighten you
- Damaging property/walls/possessions to scare you
- Making you isolated and alone
- Blaming everything on you
- Threatening to take the children away or hurt them
- Stalking, following, checking up on you
- Harming pets to punish you
- Stopping you from, or forcing you to, practice a faith or religion
- Making you feel scared of what might happen next.
- Forcing you to have sex or do other sexual acts you don't want to do
- Touching you in a way you don't want
- Frequently accusing you of sleeping with other people
- Forcing you to watch porn.
Physical abuse includes:
- Hitting and punching
- Biting, pushing, choking or pulling your hair
- Making you drink or take drugs when you don't want to
- Using or threatening to use weapons.
Financial abuse includes:
- Taking your money or property
- Running up debts in your name
- Misusing power of attorney
- Pressuring you into paying money.
- Not providing food, clothing and warmth
- Leaving dependants alone or with someone who is unsafe
- Not providing comfort, attention and love
- Not providing medical treatment.
Family violence is a crime.
You can report any family violence to the Police. Call the Police on 111 if you think you or someone else is in danger.
If it's not an immediate crisis but you want support or someone to talk to about your concerns, phone our information line on 0800 456 450.
You can also search under 'Family Violence' in the Family Services Directory for support services in your area or contact the following organisations for help: