Things have changed for the better at He Tauaa Hawks Rugby League Club in the past year. The players and refs are happier, and the sideline abuse has dropped.
"The hardest part was breaking through the mental abuse that drained me to a point where it was hard to think for myself let alone ask for help."
'A call to men: Be the change' hui registrations have opened, free, Te Puea Memorial Marae, Mangere, Auckland, 7 - 9 October.
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I became so obsessed in myself and my ego that I completely ignored the needs of my partner and children. I would be verbally, physically, emotionally abusive.
I guess my situation was made more difficult because I am the boss, so it took a lot for my staff to pull me aside and find out what was going on.