We Do Choose Our Behaviours
I came up before the Judge, and the duty solicitor advised me to do an anger management course because that would bode well with him. So I did the course. I was simmering inside, but now there were all these other angry guys around me. One Indian guy kept blaming women for everything. And I thought he was right at first. I was always vocal. When they said that we make a choice about our behaviour, I'd say ‘that's rubbish - we don't make choices, it just happens'. But I finally accepted that we do choose our behaviours. Although the course started out as a strategy to escape trouble, by the end I'd learnt a lot of very helpful things - I even thanked my wife for it.
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