No-one Deserves to Be Treated Badly - 29 April 2013

I've been thinking a lot lately about a life of abuse, and what has been the core factor in helping myself — and others I've spoken to — to lead a better life away from abuse. 

The thing that's been the core necessity has been realising that I'm worth more than the low value I give myself; that I don't deserve to be treated so badly. That I have rights and shouldn't be forced into anything. I really feel that this message should be put out there. I think asking others to help is excellent, but often times with abuse victims, they have no-one who would notice, or they reside in an area where everyone is an abuse victim, and they don't realise that there's anything wrong with it. 

I remember living on streets where my neighbours were violent just as much as our household. When you know nothing else but abuse, you don't realise that you don't actually have to live like that. It wasn't until recently — now that I'm 26 — that I've slowly learned all the things I didn't need to put up with. The things I didn't actually deserve, and that has been what's helped me stop tolerating it, to escape the abusive people, to make a stand for myself and my rights that I deserve. And I feel really strongly that this is the core way to defeat abuse. 

I've had a lot of time on my hands lately, trying to fix myself and that's something that has really struck me: that I wish I'd known earlier that I don't deserve to be treated badly, that I have a right to happiness, empowerment, and to only do what I want, not be forced to do things that others want me to do.

 

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