Events start the conversation - 6 August 2014

The It's Not OK teamEvents provide the opportunity to reach a lot of people at once about family violence and how it can be prevented.

Campaign champions, branded merchandise and printed information can all help to start the conversation to bring family violence out in to the open and encourage people to ask for - and offer - help.

Tainui Games

The Campaign had a strong presence at the Tainui Games in 2012.

The games are held every two years, with 62 Tainui marae competing in a range of sports. The Campaign was invited to share the message that family violence is not OK but it is OK to ask for help during the two day event.

Five violence free men including It's not OK Champion Vic Tamati mingled with the crowd, sharing their kaupapa of giving up family violence. Vic shared some of his story on stage to a spell bound audience.

Thousands of resources were handed out, encouraging people to ask for help and to help others.

People flocked to the It's not OK tent to ask questions and chat with the champions. Bags and other merchandise were displayed across the venue and taken into homes.


The message that Family Violence is not OK but It is OK to Ask for Help was loud and clear at the Pacific Sevens Tournament in Wellington in 2012.Vic Tamati talking with a visitor

Sixteen teams from round New Zealand participated in the two day tournament.

It's not OK champion Vic Tamati handed out It's not OK fans to the crowd. Spectators were in no doubt about the seriousness of family violence in New Zealand, with facts and statistics broadcast throughout the event.

"This was a simple but effective way to get our message across," Vic Tamati said.

Lua Maynard, team manager for t

he defending champions team Vaiala Blackies from Manukau, ran workshops with his team alongside the tournament. The workshops focused on good behaviour on and off the field and the importance of being good role models. The Blackies also carried the It's not OK logo on their uniforms.

At the tournament and after party the phrase It's not OK was used to diffuse several tense situations.

Ulalei carried the It's not OK message again in 2013.


A team of It's not OK champions made a strong impact at the annual Pasifika festival in Auckland 2012.

Vic Tamati and his team of violence free men mixed with the crowd, handed out Campaign resources and made it clear that family violence is not OK, ever.

Many of the thousands who attend the festival visited the Campaign stall including politicians John Key and Len Brown who wore his It's not OK t shirt for the rest of the day.

Vic said it was a great opportunity to promote a violence free life to men and women and showed just how important it is to talk to people face to face.

Pasifika Family Violence Free Day - Otara

Music and art dominated a Pasifika Family Violence Free Day in Otara in 2012.

The event was held at the Otara Shopping Centre where Saturday markets draw large crowds. It was organised by Kumi Fanua, the Pacific arm of the local family violence prevention network.

Performances included the South Auckland Poet's Collective, sharing their moving stories and poetry, hip-hop stars Kas Tha Feelstyle, Giant Killa, R&B singer Ria, The Unbreakables, Polynesian dance specialists, Em-Brace and Otara R&B legends Cydel.

There were activities for the kids and information tables for the parents. Local businesses and community agencies donated spot prizes and food hampers were given away to lucky winners who filled out a survey asking what they knew about family violence and how they could develop safe and healthier relationships.

An exhibition of art work by local students was on display. A team of volunteers (Youth Health Student Council) from nearby James Cook High School in Manurewa supported organisers.

MC for the event Lua Maynard said the day was successful because it brought many families out to the Otara Shopping Centre to enjoy a fun filled day with violence free messages being the focus.

"There was something for everyone. A bouncy castle, rides, balloons and face painting for the kids, as well as good music, exciting performances and talent on display at the main stage.

"Having tables with resources on how to develop and maintain healthy relationships encouraged many of the parents to take some of the material home to read and share with the rest of the family," he said.

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